Cyber Cupid: Finding Love Online
Mankind loves a lover. We all want that special someone, but sometimes it hurts when we haven’t found them yet and we’re stuck surrounded by people who have. You have your hopeless romantics, with their scented candles and matching him and her t-shirts.
They don’t lean to strongly either one way or the other, and while they may not be cast in the next remake of Romeo and Juliet, they still get lonely for companionship. Which means that they like to have more than one choice available.
Online dating can be just as tricky as the real thing, but it has its benefits. For instance a lot of possible mates have yet to come out of the proverbial closet. While the ones who have, have fallen so far into the stereotype of what it is to be a ‘gay’ man or ‘gay’ woman that they are often a turn off in and of themselves. So to find the middleman, the one that isn’t too extreme but still honest and proud about who they are, involves grueling and sometimes endless searching.
Those of the GLBT community have an even harder time of it. If your prospects haven’t admitted which side of the fence their on, then they’re so far gone into the stereotype of the culture that they’ve made themselves unattractive. So what to do? How to find one that isn’t one extreme or the next? You can embark on an endless search much like the rest of the population but there’s so much trial and error involved that it’s almost not worth it. The Heteros complain about how hard finding true love is.
Their prospects are either still hidden in the closet behind the winter coats, or have come so far out of it that they embody the term, ‘flamingly gay’. The belief that the good ones are all taken or gay is only half true. If it wasn’t, then there’d be no single gay men or lesbians left. What it tells us is that it’s just as hard for straight people to find a partner as it is for a gay one.
It makes sense why it would be harder for someone apart of the GLBT community to find an acceptable mate. Gay online dating allows people looking for the same thing to congregate together and sort of check each other out. With gay online dating websites, you can get all of the pertinent facts up front.
How old, age, height, marriage status and criminal record. The great thing is that since you’re already on the internet, if they lied about anything you can simply Google them. Either way, be aware that just as in real life, cyber dating in gay online dating takes just as much courage as in real life. So have faith in your touchy-feely-lovey dovey emotions. If the perfect mate hasn’t found you yet then it’s just a matter of time before they do. Until then be safe and as true to your heart as you can and hopefully you’ll be rewarded.
