The Difference Between Romance And Stalking
Life just isn’t always fair. We have been taught that the sense of fairness we seek does not come easily and that in so many cases we have to stand up and fight for what we want. Nobody wants to regret their decisions, and nobody likes to lose loved ones. Sometimes we are moved into action that perhaps even we don’t completely understand. Expressing your love and stalking your loved one are two very different things.
Once upon a time you could show up under their window with and pluck away at your Ibanez acoustic guitar. You would be heralded a romantic. Now you can be charged with trespassing and be slapped with a restraining order.
In order to remain expressive, there are plenty of thoughts that include that drummer, the Ibanez electric guitar, and someone to sing sad lyrics for your first ever attempt at a love CD. This isn’t realistic. You hope that you can think of the perfect romantic gesture, and moderation can get your fingers back on the neck of the Ibanez acoustic electric guitar for maybe just one recording.
If it’s not guitars then it could be artistic creation of any kind. In some cases it could be a single act of self humiliation to drive the point home that you just don’t want the love relationship to dwindle away and die. Emotion can be a powerful driving force and sometimes we just don’t think enough before we act.
What is the difference between acting big and acting so big we find ourselves in trouble? Usually it’s the messages we receive in return. When we are told to go away, we need to respect the space. A failed love needs space to heal, and when we show up unannounced or we call seven times per day we aren’t respecting the space. Think of your big act as your one and only act. You get one chance to express yourself and try to ask for that second chance.
It can be difficult for an emotionally charged individual to draw the line between what seems like reasonable intentions and what is construed as reasonable acts. When your relationship is failing you can feel desperate. When you start acting desperate it really shows, and it can translate into a rather unsettling need for contact.
A simple romantic gesture and the ability to show personal restraint is a much better quality than the ability to create devotional acts all over the place. You certainly have the right to ask once for another chance at love, but once the door closes, you need to back away.
